Here are some musical ideas for parents (and practitioners) to help with baby crying and support mental wellbeing. The World Health Organisation (WHO) recommends music for parental mental wellbeing during pregnancy, childbirth, and post-birth. We mainly link to free music on web-based platforms rather than apps, to make our ideas as instant, accessible, and data-light as possible. This also honours the copyright of the musicians/producers and encourages them to make even more content! Sorry about the ads - we are looking into all this!! NB. Practitioners playing music in public places, please use our license-free music only.
Please check back here every so often as we are always adding to this page. We genuinely hope you can find some comfort here, even in the middle of the night when no-one else is around! Please note that these are only suggestions based on the latest research - you will know what works best for you or not. FirstMusic doesn't provide any kind of advice.
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Your baby is crying
You notice yourself getting stressed
Take some deep breaths
Feel the breath going down into your tummy
Play some calm music on your phone
Walk around with your baby, breathing along to the music you love
If you need a break, put your baby down somewhere safe and walk away for a few minutes until you feel calmer.
The science-y blurb!
Breathing in our tummies along to some calm music can help our bodies settle down. It’s a similar type of breathing to when we’re asleep. Fast shallow breathing gets our bodies ready to fight or run – our survival mode. Not great if we are trying to be calm! Happy breathing!
Your baby is crying (again)
You pop on the white noise track
Fingers crossed it might help!
Click HERE for a link to 8 hours of uninterrupted white noise!
The science-y blurb!
In 2 recent research studies, white noise helped babies to stop crying quicker than just rocking them. The researchers said to place phones or speakers a metre or so away from our babies’ ears with the volume the same as a soft shower.
Or the hoover suddenly becomes
your friend!!
Your baby is calm (yay!)
You take some nice deep breaths
Just spend some time watching your little one, really watching them!
Pop on some nice music or hum to yourself
Enjoy having some peaceful time
Have a guess what your baby is thinking about?
Have a guess what your baby is feeling?
The science-y blurb!
Babywatching can help us feel we are getting to know our babies a little bit more. It takes time to get to know each other! We've only recently met!! If our babies know we are thinking about them and trying to guess how they are feeling, they feel safe around us.
Your baby is crying and you notice your
stress levels rising
You pick up your baby and let them know you’ve heard them
Try walking around and singing along with the words and tune of one of your favourite songs – with a nice beat! Not too loud!
Try slowing down a bit – slow your walk and slow your song
See if you can slow down a bit more?
If you need a break, put your baby down somewhere safe and walk away for a few minutes until you feel calmer.
The science-y blurb!
When our babies are born they can’t regulate their feelings at all and they need us to do it for them. That's really hard sometimes. The latest research says that helping little babies to stop crying helps them cry less as toddlers. Phew!
Your baby is quiet and alert (finally!)
You’re on your own with your baby and no-one is listening so … using a song-song voice or even making up a little tune
Sing-song your way, through the day!
Don’t even think about it too much – maybe tell your baby what you’re doing (making food, sorting out laundry, sending texts, etc)
And if you can’t think what to sing-song about, just make up funny words – doo do bee do, blah, blah, blah, bub a bub, zip-a-dee-doo-dah! You’ll have some fab ones of your own.
The science-y blurb!
A sing-song voice is what used to be called parentese in the research – it’s now called infant-directed speech. It’s that special sort of voice that people use to speak to babies (and cute puppies!) It rises and falls in a sing-song kind of a way. Infant-directed speech is perfect for babies and even releases positive hormones in us – serotonin and oxytocin. Who knew!
Do you have a favourite group or
music artist?
Maybe you love the latest chart-topping music?
Maybe you love to sing along with your favourite anthems?
Maybe you love alternative music, gospel, folk, classical, reggae, so much to
choose from!
How about having a playlist on your phone that helps you feel better, especially on a tough day?
The science-y blurb!
The latest music research shows that listening to music is really helping parents and carers with their sense of mental wellbeing. Pop music seems to be listened to most although lots of different types of music work too. Music reduces anxiety, helps lift our mood, and even lowers blood pressure. Who knew?!
Is your baby's crying just too loud to bear?
In our research, parents told us that the volume really mattered
How about popping in some soft earplugs?
You are still there for your baby, and can still hear them, but the crying is now quieter
Parents have also told us that they would put one in-ear headphone in and listen to nice music to distract them
After all, babies don't have volume control!
The science-y blurb!
Crying that doesn't stop easily is one of the hardest things parents and carers have to deal with. Sometimes, babies are diagnosed with colic (3 hours of crying, for 3 or more days, over 3 or more weeks - the rule of 3s). Some babies cry and are not diagnosed with colic because even after more than 30 years of research, colic is still not well-understood. Always trust your instincts and get help for your baby if they won't stop crying and take a break if you need to.
Our baby's crying can be very distressing
for us and we can find it very difficult to cope at times
This distress can grow and grow as we get more and more tired
Some people find a special type of music helpful: bi-lateral music stimulation
This music can help reduce feelings of distress and stress
Search for bi-lateral music or click HERE for an example - happy listening!
The science-y blurb!
The science on bi-lateral music stimulation is still new but many people report feeling much calmer after listening to it and there are no reported harmful effects at the moment.
Maybe it's worth a (careful) try because even if it just distracts us from the crying, that in itself might be a help.
Early evenings and the middle of the night can be very lonely times if you have a
crying baby
Maybe you have some tunes that you can hum or sing as you rock your baby
(and yourself)?
Any tune can be a lullaby - just slow it down, use a soft voice, and combine it with rocking your baby side-to-side
Hopefully, the rhythm and the rocking will help you both settle and feel comforted
The science-y blurb!
Lullabies go back millenia - the first known one threatens a baby to go to sleep or the house god will get them - not much has changed since then!!
Lullabies are not just for babies, they are also to comfort and soothe parents
Some of the words of traditional lullabies are not pretty at all. Maybe the words can help soothe a worn-out parent and the tune soothe the baby?
COMING SOON! We are bringing together a small collection of lullabies based on the global folk songs our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents sang. Their mood captures the struggles of parenthood whilst their tunes can lull us all to sleep - hopefully!!
How about listening to this song and really focusing on the words. You might think that this is the song you would sing to your baby. How about realising that it's the song your baby sings to YOU!!!
For the song and lyrics
please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
In 2023, top journal Nature published a study showing that 6-month old babies preferred their mothers' faces to strangers' faces, and that this was associated with quicker recovery from distress at 9-months. Given separate evidence that babies' prefer the face of their main caregiver, let's assume that other parental figures are amazing just the way they are too!
Imogen Heap has created "The Happy Song" in response to a brief from the C&G Club to write a song that would make babies happier!
For the official song and video
please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
Researchers at Goldsmith University in London scientifically tested the music in its various stages of production. Tempo, melody, and various samplings were tested on a total of 26 babies to work out which ones they liked best. How lovely is that!
2 hours of uninterrupted baby sleep music inspired by the sights and sounds of the African savanna.
To comfort parents, carers, and babies, and hopefully lull everyone to sleep!
Please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
Music triggers the release of dopamine which can boost feelings of wellbeing (it may also help manage pain!) Music also decreases levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Try relaxing or slow music (around 60-80 beats per minute) to help everyone sleep. Play at the volume of a soft shower with speakers at least a metre from babies' little ears.
This 1970 soul hit from the Five Fairsteps captures a parent telling their little one that things are going to get better.
We hope this can bring comfort and hope, whatever's happening for you at the moment. We're not trying to minimise how tough things can get, just to send a musical hug. Music and lyrics below.
Please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
In numerous research studies, the lyrics of music are found to be comforting to listeners. Youth Music's 2023 study found that 73% of the 16-24s surveyed found listening to, reading, or writing lyrics helped them process difficult feelings and emotions. How amazing is that!
This stunning piece for piano and cello is one of our founder's favourites. Debi listens and breathes. Sounds so simple yet it's a real challenge sometimes!!
The aim is to focus on our breathing to help us be in the moment and settle our thoughts. However, it's the music that really matters here!! See below for the research behind it.
The music always makes Debi cry but in a good way. Please go carefully and stop if it's not good for you. We are all very different.
Please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
In 2018, a randomised controlled trial measured reduction in blood pressure (BP) for a group who practised breathing to music, and a group who just listened to the music. Both groups showed a significant reduction in both systolic and diastolic BP. However, it was the listening to music (in both groups) that was significant not the breathing. A very interesting finding.
Grammy award-winning saxophonist, Kenny G, has released a new album called Innocence (December 2023). If you like smooth silky jazz, you might like these tracks which are his first collection of lullabies.
For the track called A mother's lullaby, please click HERE!
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A randomised controlled trial in 2022 found that listening to lullabies can help reduce anxiety in pregnant women and increase their feelings of bonding with their babies-in-waiting. Powerful stuff!
In our research with lovely parents, many were happy to try white noise to help their babies to settle and stay asleep.
However, some parents didn't like it for themselves and this really matters.
For an alternative, perhaps try the sounds of the sea or other nature sounds? For an example 3-hour track from Norweigian composer, Peder B. Helland (with over 10.7 million subscribers), please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
Several recent studies have suggested that the sounds of nature can reduce stress hormones, boost positive mindset, lower negative mood, and make us feel more comfortable and relaxed. The nature sounds studied included the sounds of the ocean, rain falling, and even the tweets of birds in the forest. There were no reports of any harms in listening to these types of tracks, but you'll know if it works for you (and your little one) or not.
There's one artist who keeps popping up during our research and chats with parents of all genders: Taylor Swift!!
Parents liked her music before having children, and enjoyed it during pregnancy and even labour!
For the Folklore album, please click HERE!
The science-y blurb!
A randomised controlled trial in 2020 found that listening to music over speakers during labour significantly reduced perceptions of pain and anxiety. The parents in the study chose their own music to listen to. Let's get that playlist ready for birth-day!
Have you ever noticed music playing in the background when you are out and about? Maybe during a shopping trip, or in a waiting room. Some of us might put music on when we work or exercise. Music even plays when we're put on hold during a call!
The science-y blurb!
A recent research review in 2022 found that background music generally reduces the anxiety levels of patients in doctors' and hospital waiting rooms. Many of the studies recommend music of 60-72 beats per minute, with no lyrics, and a consistent rhythm. We reckon it might be worth a try at home, especially if we can't get out easily with little ones. That speed sounds very much like an average heart rate!
A huge hit segment on a rather famous late night US show, some of the biggest music artists around joined James Corden for a sing-along in his car. Here's one of our favourite episodes with a very playful guest not usually known for her singing - Michelle Obama! Enjoy! HERE!
How about singing along to our favourite tracks if we're driving somewhere with our little one(s)? (Stay safe!)
The science-y blurb!
When we sing along to a song we know, or listen to music we love, there is often an instant sense of pleasure. This is because of a tiny part of our inner ear - the sacculus. Low frequency high-intensity sounds, like singing, stimulate the sacculus which in turn stimulates the pleasure-sensing part of our brains. Who knew!! Scientists at Goldsmiths University London describe it being like the music literally tickling our brains! How fab is that!
PS. The research says nothing about being a "good" singer so let's just let loose sometimes - our own inner music star!
We wanted to share the music of French composer, Yann Tierson, with everyone hoping it might transport us all to
peaceful places.
"Porz Goret" is a track from his 2016 album, EUSA, inspired by the rugged landscape of Ushunt island (EUSA in Breton) off the coast of Brittany where Yann lives.
The official video is HERE.
And if you love aerial dance, here is a real treat performed by Takek Rammo and Kami-Lynne Bruin to this track. Soooooo beautiful! HERE!
The science-y blurb!
The World Health Organisation recently published a scoping review of over 3000 studies (Fancourt & Finn, 2019). Results showed a major role for the arts in the prevention of ill health, promotion of health and wellbeing, and management and treatment of illness across the lifespan. Please find the review HERE.
Marem Gökhan Şen has released a new album, "Lullabies of the Circassian Grandmother," sung in Circassian and Abkhaz, and passed down the generations in Circassia, Abkhazia, and the Turkish diaspora. What is especially lovely is the voice recordings of real villagers included in these songs. What traditional lullabies do we know? Particularly in the UK and US, there is evidence that parents don't feel they have a bank of traditional lullabies to draw on. We hope that FirstMusic might help a little with this as we gather some long-lost lullabies and songs of childhood together. Please watch this space!
The official album is HERE.
The science-y blurb!
A recent systematic review (2023) found that babies preferred listening to familiar songs sung by their mothers (other parents were not included in this particular review). Benefits included emotional regulation of babies, a sense of validation in mothers, and a sense of mothers feeling attuned with their babies.
The review can be found HERE.
In our research, many parents have told us that so-called "baby music" isn't what they really want or even like! There seems to be a gap between music to soothe parents as well as little ones, and the nursery rhymes and other songs aimed at baby development.
So we wanted to let you know about a very cool R&B music channel called "Sleep Soul" which aims to fill this gap with cool vibes for babies. We hope it might be worth a try!
Please find an offical 8-hour playlist HERE!
The science-y blurb!
The science suggests that music with a slow tempo, little change, and with no "surprises" turns off the pain receptors in babies' brains to prepare them for sleeping. Babies don't just hear the rhythm, they also feel it, especially if they are being held and rocked along to the music.
We launched this musical hug on International Women's Day. Such a 70s classic with fabulous lyrics, and we encourage singing along (loudly!)
The chorus words are:
"Yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I've gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman"
What an anthem!!
The science-y blurb!
Perkins and colleagues (2018) found increases in mums' self-esteem through group singing, and a greater sense of achievement in caring for their babies. This singing may reassure mums as
they start their parenting journey, especially if mums are feeling isolated, tired, and with many other (common) challenges.
The paper can be found HERE.
In our research with lovely parents, many shared their love of musicals, especially as sound tracks for longer journeys. Frozen, Mama Mia, or Shrek anyone?? Hamilton was a real hit with parents, and also Wicked.
So we thought we'd send the original "Hamilton" Broadway recording your way. You can sing along which you can't in most theatres, so this is even better! Find the epic songs HERE!
We also couldn't resist sharing the official Barbie soundtrack HERE!
The science-y blurb!
Singing can now be "prescribed" by doctors to help improve people's health and wellbeing. Better than pills, right?
A new controlled study is underway to look at how effective this approach is.
Please see HERE for details.
For World Sleep Day last week (who knew that was a thing?!), Travelodge Hotels launched "Bedtime Snories" for adults - what a fab idea! Read by celebrity impressionist, Charlie Hopkinson, you can choose between well-known rhymes in the sound-a-like voices of Sir David Attenborough, Morgan Freeman, or Michael Caine - lots of fun! With gentle sleepy music to accompany them, these 8-minute tracks are designed to be soothing. Hope you might enjoy them!
Bedtime Snories are HERE!
The science-y blurb!
Travelodge conducted research with over 2,000 adults and found that 41% of them said that lack-of-sleep was the top reason for ruining the next day. And that's not even with a little one in the mix.
Hope you can grab at least a bit of sleep this week. Zzzzzzzz.
Thought we’d share a short BBC podcast today called “Just one thing”. It’s a really popular series by Dr Michael Mosley sharing ways to make small changes for wellbeing.
This episode is about listening to music in a mindful “present” way. It’s 14 mins long
and full of fascinating facts. If it sounds interesting, you can listen to it HERE.
Happy listening!!
The science-y blurb!
This podcast is packed full of the latest research. A couple of things stood out for us; that listening to music WITH our little ones and children can help our relationships become stronger and happier, and that brain scans show our neurons “dancing along” with the beat of the music.
Soooo interesting!
What if lullabies were not just songs for sleeping? What if they could also be the anthem of a nation under siege?
This lullaby was the Ukranian entry for the 2022 Eurovision Song Contest. Winning the competition, it beat the UK's entry, Spaceman, by Sam Ryder.
The official video is HERE. It's a very
powerful watch, so please go gently.
The science-y blurb!
Lullabies go back millenia and have been used for many purposes. In his 1959 "The Lullaby Book", Leslie Daiken describes these songs as endearment, bribery, and threat. Nicholas Tucker goes even further in his 1984 paper, describing them as potential exercises in "controlled hatred". This might seem a bit shocking until we think about the words of some traditional lullabies. Even the English classic, rock-a-bye-baby ends with the baby falling from the tree!??
Perhaps babies like the melody and parents can sing the unsayable?? Interesting thought.
Let's talk about ear worms!!! Not real worms crawling around in our heads, honest!! Ear worms is a term to describe songs that get stuck in our heads on a bit of a loop. Sometimes for weeks on end! Has this ever happened to you?
The science-y blurb!
Ear worms are very common apparently, with some studies showing participants having at least one a day. What's strange is that ear worms are always musical (with or without words). Maybe musical structure lends itself to the looping over-and-over of small sections? Ear worms are often linked to musical memories which seem to just pop into our heads at random times.
A fun article on ear worms from the Kennedy Center can be found HERE.
A really good summary research paper (2023) can be found HERE.
Just wanted to send this absoutely iconic disco hit to encourage us all to dance around for a minute or two. And if this music isn't for you, maybe you have another track to dance to? Many music tracks are just a few minutes - perfect for a dance around the room with or without our little one!! No one is watching!!
Official music video with subtitles is HERE!
The science-y blurb!
Music helps many parents feel less anxious, more calm, and much less agitated. Even just listening to upbeat music can significantly improve our mood and support our immune system! Imagine what dancing to music can do?!!!
Quick newspaper article HERE!
See HERE for a really interesting
research paper!
Earth Day has been celebrated on 22nd April since 1970 (see the official website HERE). We wanted to encourage everyone that the sights and sounds of the natural world are a powerful and well-researched tonic for our wellbeing. We hope that you might be able to enjoy some fresh air today but if not, HERE is our favourite soundtrack with beautiful birds to watch. (We are all different so we hope you can find some lovely videos/music to enjoy!)
The science-y blurb!
Birdsong and the sounds of nature can be really helpful to lift our mood. Even just listening to recordings can have the same effects as being outside. Soooo helpful if you can't get out with a little one. Not only this, but looking at nature images and watching nature videos can also support our mental wellbeing. I knew it was good for me watching all those cute cat videos!!
Interesting article on nature pictures HERE
Lovely BBC newspaper article on nature sounds HERE!
One of the most famous lullabies in Western music was composed by Brahms, and is everywhere from baby mobiles, music boxes, pull-string comforters, to musical toys. Known as "Wiegenlied", this piece was written for Brahm's friend, Bertha Faber, when her second son was born.
HERE is a very gentle long-running version
of Brahm's Lullaby (1.5 hours) to enjoy.
The science-y blurb!
Historical research suggests that Bertha was more to Brahms than just a friend, and that the two had become very close. The counter melody in Weigenlied is thought to be a favourite song that Bertha used to sing to Brahms. How romantic!
Article on the history of Brahm's Lullaby and his relationship with Bertha is HERE
This musical hug comes straight from a couple of wonderful colleagues and friends at the Royal College of Music. We were chatting about music helping with totally overwhelming feelings. Sometimes this means finding a piece of music that just seems "right" for the moment. Finding music that somehow "matches" or "meets" your mood. Lyrics also really helped!!!
The science-y blurb!
We know that babies can't regulate their feelings and need us to do it for them. However, baby crying, colic, very little sleep, etc, etc, can make us feel really frazzled emotionally. Our own feelings can be overwhelming let alone us having to regulate our little ones. Finding music for us FIRST might be helpful even as a distraction! Also, we can put our babies down somewhere safe and walk away for a bit, especially if we are on our own.
A truly wonderful friend shared this music with FirstMusic and we wanted to let everyone know about it!
Brahms's Six Pieces for Piano, Op. 118, were completed in 1893 and published with a dedication to Clara Schumann. We hope you (and your little ones) might enjoy them and the journey they take you on! Please go gently. You'll know if it's a good time to listen or not, music is so very personal. Played by Arkadi Volodos, the six piece playlist (official videos), can
be found app-free HERE
The science-y blurb!
Recent research shows the promise of music to help and heal, even if it's sad music. Soooo interesting! Music also has a unique ability to trigger autobiographical memories, even things we thought we'd forgotten. If you want to read more, including about music, memories, and dementia, please see below!
Article from Newcastle University (2023) HERE
World Environment Day is celebrated every year on 5 June, so it seemed a really good time to send some incredible nature-based music everyone's way. With music composed by Hans Zimmer and Radiohead, BBC Earth's extended trailer for Blue Planet II is HERE! More on this incredible musical collaboration is HERE.
Go gently! It gives me goosebumps!! And the visuals are mind-blowing!!
The science-y blurb!
A truly fascinating article on the music of nature and the nature of music is HERE.
Ever wondered about the sophisticated music produced by humpback whales, that is so similar to human music? Ever reflected that our ancestors were hearing music in the natural world before language was even a thing? Are humans actually pretty late to the music scene??!!
Here's a lovely lullaby playlist in celebration of Infant Mental Health Awareness Week! It's one that parents and little ones have loved over the years. It's been played as background music in many a session, and we've enjoyed singing along with some of these beautiful songs too! Enjoy!
Playlist is HERE!
The science-y blurb!
The theme for IMHAW 2024 is "Speak up for babies." And with a general election just around the corner, it matters to give the littlest in our society their voice. The first 1001 days of life (conception to 2 years) is fundamental to our babies' health, wellbeing, and happiness. Supporting and strengthening the earliest parent-infant relationship in kind and gentle ways, is one of the most powerful ways we can help! A big thank you to everyone working in this field from so many different perspectives! AND an even bigger thank you to parents everywhere who are caring for little ones with all the ups and downs this inevitably brings!! More info on IMHAW HERE
Chatting with a lovely group of parents and new babies, we shared some of our favourite music (you know, in the years BC, Before Children!!) We remembered music playing when we were little to our teens, from all kinds of different genres, soul, rock, raggae, gospel, classical, specific artists, etc.
These were happy memories which came back to us when we heard the music in the here and now. We decided we'd listen to this sort of music more!
The science-y blurb!
Turns out that music is pretty special at bringing back memories. It's got a posh name; music-evoked autobiographical memory. It's also really common and is most likely to happen when our minds are wandering rather than being actively focused on something. If this sounds really interesting, a fascinating article is HERE!
Chatting again with a lovely group of parents and babies, we spoke about how powerful music is to bring us together. One lovely Mum described recently watching Glastonbury (on the telly!!) and getting goosebumps from the experience. Coldplay playing "Fix You" was an absolute highlight for us at FirstMusic, especially with lovely actor Michael J. Fox on guitar - anyone remember "Back to the Future"!!!
The science-y blurb!
Music brings people together and seems to transcend many barriers that drive us apart. Specifically, when we listen together our neural responses begin to synchronise in a special thing called neural entrainment. This increases feelings of social bonding. Who knew?!
Re-live the amazing Coldplay moment HERE!
Fab TEDX on the transformative and bonding effect music can have on society HERE!
For many of us, the music of our teens and twenties is the music which brings back so many memories when we hear it again now. It's like we have a soundtrack of our youth. I'm unashamedly a 70s and 80s teen! I know, ancient, right! Michael Jackson, Stevie Wonder, David Bowie, Gladys Knight and the Pips, Madonna, Shalamar, Wham, The Police, Duran Duran ... shall I go on??? I'm going to have a listen again. What's the soundtrack of your teens and twenties???
Lovely range of playlists by decade HERE!!
The science-y blurb!
Researchers have found that between the age of around 10-30 years, our memories are subject to the "reminiscence bump". Our sense of identity is building during this time and music gets tied to important moments in our "story". When we hear the tune again, it triggers that personal memory. Soooo interesting!
As we produce this little musical idea, we're in the middle of the 2024 Olympics! Olympians are swimming, running, vaulting, jumping, skate-boarding ... and so many other amazing verbs ... their way to medals. I get tired just watching on the telly!! We thought we'd send the official Olympics classical soundtrack composed by John Williams your way. If rousing classical is not for you, there's also a really nice summer chillax playlist! Enjoy!!
John Williams official track HERE!!
Summer chill playlist HERE!!
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Chatting with some lovely mums a couple of weeks ago, we laughed about how music helps us get through boring jobs around the house. Fast music = fast jobs! Everyone had a track or playlist they liked best for this. Maybe housework should be an Olympic sport?!
Article on how music improves performance in gym workouts and
running HERE!
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